You’ve probably heard the saying that no one looks back on his deathbed and wishes he had spent more time at the office. Trouble is, that’s not necessarily the way your supervisor looks at things.In today’s competitive work...
Starting a new relationship can feel a bit disorienting.At first everything is exciting; this is what you’ve always wanted, right? Months or years – seems like a lifetime – of dating, and all of a sudden here he is!...
Part 2. (Read Part 1 here.)Nurturing new relationships takes time and effort. Let’s look at two uncomfortable issues that can come up: arguments and sexual interest.Perhaps you’re home with Mr. Right and you have your first...
Gay men have an ambivalent attitude towards masculinity. The word comes up all the time in personal ads – you know, “masculine guy seeks same.” We often equate masculine with sexy. At the same time, many gay men privately worry...
Want to change your relationship? Change your point of view. I enjoy being a therapist for many reasons, but mostly because people are just so darn interesting. We’re all the same in some ways, and yet so different in others. Someone told me...
Sometimes events overtake us. Whether it is an out-of-the-blue surprise like the exposing of an affair or the accumulated discontent that comes from neglecting the health of a relationship, we are suddenly facing a confrontation. ...
Ever wonder if you are addicted to sex? I suspect many gay men have asked themselves this question. For a variety of reasons, sex tends to be important to us, and we tend to have sex with more different partners than straight men do. It’s...
Does the whole idea of “resolutions” make you laugh? True, declarations that things are going to be different this year often have a shelf life of a couple of months, tops. Gyms and treadmill manufacturers make a lot of money from...
Healthy intimate relationships, whether dating someone rather casually or being committed to a life partner, call for a bit of a balancing act. Intimacy requires an ability to act selflessly sometimes -- to put the other guy’s...
Doesn't just hearing the word grate on your nerves? "Codependency" was one of the great buzz words of the 1980's. Sometimes it seemed like everyone either was, used to be or feared being codependent. Like many psycho babble...