As a therapist who works with couples, the three words I most fear hearing from any newly-established pair are: “We never fight.”Individuals new to a relationship must fight. Of course, I don’t mean breaking dishes,...
As my spouse Mitchell and I approach our 27th anniversary, our 7-year difference in age is much more prominent to us than it’s been for some time.At age 56, I am envisioning slowing down, relinquishing work and ambition, enjoying my...
In the past few columns, I’ve written about various attributes of healthy relationships. I’ve noted the unique courage of same-sex couples, the profound honesty of such icons as Christopher Isherwood and Don Bachardy, and even...
For one human being to love another; that is perhaps the most difficult of our tasks; the ultimate, the last test and proof; the work for which all other work is but preparation.— Rainer Maria RilkeRecently, my spouse and I...
In a previous column, I offered some contrasting perspectives concerning the question of monogamy and non-monogamy and asked you to tell me how you approach it. Like I said in a previous column, talking about this issue is a bit like hitting the...
"If I know what love is, it is because of you."--Hermann HesseOf the many questions gay men face in forming romantic relationships, two are most prominent: “Can gay men be monogamous?” and “Should they be?” If you...
Despite the news that Prop 8 passed -- eliminating the right to marriage for same-sex couples in California -- there are lessons in our response to the loss. Of course, there's plenty of blame going around: religious organizations that...