You’ve probably heard the saying that no one looks back on his deathbed and wishes he had spent more time at the office. Trouble is, that’s not necessarily the way your supervisor looks at things.In today’s competitive work...
As a therapist who works with couples, the three words I most fear hearing from any newly-established pair are: “We never fight.”Individuals new to a relationship must fight. Of course, I don’t mean breaking dishes,...
Starting a new relationship can feel a bit disorienting.At first everything is exciting; this is what you’ve always wanted, right? Months or years – seems like a lifetime – of dating, and all of a sudden here he is!...
Part 2. (Read Part 1 here.)Nurturing new relationships takes time and effort. Let’s look at two uncomfortable issues that can come up: arguments and sexual interest.Perhaps you’re home with Mr. Right and you have your first...
As my spouse Mitchell and I approach our 27th anniversary, our 7-year difference in age is much more prominent to us than it’s been for some time.At age 56, I am envisioning slowing down, relinquishing work and ambition, enjoying my...
In the past few columns, I’ve written about various attributes of healthy relationships. I’ve noted the unique courage of same-sex couples, the profound honesty of such icons as Christopher Isherwood and Don Bachardy, and even...
Dear Joe,I came out only five years ago, after being in an 11-year heterosexual relationship where toward the end, the sex stopped cold. For me, obviously it never felt satisfying. Since coming out, I’ve learned to really enjoy being...
Want to change your relationship? Change your point of view. I enjoy being a therapist for many reasons, but mostly because people are just so darn interesting. We’re all the same in some ways, and yet so different in others. Someone told me...
Sometimes events overtake us. Whether it is an out-of-the-blue surprise like the exposing of an affair or the accumulated discontent that comes from neglecting the health of a relationship, we are suddenly facing a confrontation. ...
For one human being to love another; that is perhaps the most difficult of our tasks; the ultimate, the last test and proof; the work for which all other work is but preparation.— Rainer Maria RilkeRecently, my spouse and I...