Have you ever heard of a dog that gives you the middle finger, snubs you when you call, believes that you exist to please her and that she doesn’t have to please you... Well that was my dog, Maud, who owned my partner and me for 12 years.  She was my teacher, and led me kicking and screaming into her classroom. But I did learn from her, as I now know...

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The concept of Response-Ability comes from Rick Carson’s, "Taming Your Gremlin". Our interactions with others are dependent on our taking responsibility for our reactions and our responses to what is seen and heard...

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Each year during the holidays, most straight couples say they are going to one of the partner’s parents’ places, or are celebrating in their own home where families and friends will visit and blend together.  Gay and lesbian couples, however, often have different scenarios. Often they decide to go separately to their own respective families. This is a consequence of internalized homophobia as a couple...

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In most relationships, one partner plays the Turtle and the other, the Hailstorm... . Hailstorms can seem scarier because they’re loud and energetic. But to a Hailstorm, a Turtle’s retreat can be just as scary—making the Hailstorm feel abandoned and threatened....

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Gay male couples feel a lot of pressure to remain sexually fresh, new, and exciting. That's the popular stereotype...  So gay couples think that other gay couples are enjoying all kinds of adventurous sex. After all, aren't men, gay men in particular, supposed to be sexually open and alive? But this is often not the case at all.

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